Worried about my mum’s health?
My mum has recently been diagnosed with diabetes (within the past few years), and has a weight problem that seems to be causing sleep apnea. Despite this, she still eats sugary and fatty foods on a daily basis (for example she will sit down and eat a whole packet of chocolate biscuits by herself while watching tv.
Im really worried because she has a history of cancer in her family (her mum and dad both died of cancer). She doesnt seem to care at all about her health. Every time i try to talk to her about it she yells at me and tells me how shes had a weight problem all her life and she cant change it now. She says its too hard.
I dont know what to do or what to say because everytime i talk to her about it she yells at me and gives me the silent treatment until shes sure i wont bring it up again.
Please give me some ideas as to what i can do. Im out of ideas.
Thanks,
Andrew
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A person like that is difficult to change. My former husband died because of a similar situation only his was smoking. With your mother, you can buy magazines or anything on diabetes, and just casually leave it on the coffee table or anywhere she sits. Hopefully she will pick it up instead of a muffin. The more you nag her, the more resentful she will become. I don’t know what to tell you except leave hints around. Hasn’t her Dr said anything to her? I wish you the best, If I can think of anything else I will let you know. Good luck.
Diabetes and cancer are not related so don’t worry about that. Regarding the diabetes, if it is bad enough her doctor will recommend medication or even insulin injections. I know because I am diabetic. I suggest that you talk to her about these alternatives rather than bugging her about what she eats because that won’t get you anywhere.
This is a hard situation Andrew , but its one that lots of people find themselves in. Firstly , the diabetes has to be regulated , it is not related to cancer , and your mum will be given medication and advice by her doctor as to what to do to control this , so dont worry about that part. As for her general health though , Start by telling her that you dont intend to moan at her , but your worried , you love her , and want her to be around for as long as possible. Then offer to help her and support her no matter how hard it is , even if it means changing one thing at a time and you doing it with her. i.e. no sweets / biscuits in the house , walking together 4 or 5 times a week . don’t shout or get angry , but dont be afraid to show your emotions. As a parent , there is no stronger a detterent than a fear of hurting your kids. Ultimately , though , your mum is her own person , and if she chooses to be unhealthy , it is her right to be so. all you can do is tell her how it worries you and how you wish you could help her.
As hard as it may be, you need to leave this situation alone.
Your Mom heard you and gave a loud and clear response. That’s it, let it go. If you keep badgering her then she is going to become upset.
Don’t undermine you relationship with your mother. Learn to accept that you cannot change other people’s behavior. True change can only come from within.
only solution I see is Qur’aan.