Boyfriend has sleep apnea What should i do?
Ive been with my bf for 4yrs and he has sleep apnea and right side heart failure when we first go together he was a chunky guy now he weighs 400lbs and it is making his sleep apnea and heart failure worse.he has a machine that he is supposed to sleep on every night but he does not and so he sleeps 18 to 20 hrs a day.Which doesn’t leave much room for anything else for him to do i work 3rd shift and he is home all day with the kids but when i get off of work i still have to clean up wash dishes and take care of the kids because he sleeps all day.And as for a sex life we don’t have one maybe once every two weeks we have sex because he is to tired.I don’t know what to do because i do love him but he want sleep on his machine or do anything that he is supposed to do for his heart failure i don’t want to leave him but i don’t want to wake up and find him dead or god forbid im at work and one of my kids finds him dead.I try to get him to walk with me because i am a bit overweight but i have been on diet now for 4months and when ever i ask him to walk with me he says no and that is one of the things his doctor wants him to do for his heart.He doesn’t even want to get up to do simple things he always calls the kids or me to do it HELP ME…WHAT SHOULD I DO?…sorry its so lng.
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He needs to take owernship. My doctor told me that if bipap does not work that I would need a trach or then death. Talk about being scared straight. I could not breath because of the heart failure and agreed to go to the hospital. In the hospital it is much easier to be complaint.
Be supported. Tell him you want him to live. He needs a good pulmonologist. He needs to be on strong diuretics for the heart failure and on fluid restrictions. He proabably needs oxygen as well.
Best wishes. I was there. Fortunately, I had a doctor who scared me straight. I feel great lost over 150 pounds and was able to finally feel what it was like to be rested.
I understand you very well, because I had these problems too. I believe that your cpap mask or machine is not effective for your boyfriend. There are so many sleep apnea patients that have cpap therapy and now they forgot how is to be tired.
I think you’re the only hope for your boyfriend. But you need his cooperation. He needs to take the sleep test again, because an untreated sleep apnea can worsen over time and he may need another pressure from his cpap machine.
However, he can try other therapies until he goes to the doctor. The positional therapy can help a mild or moderate sleep apnea patient. So, he can try this for a while.
I hope it helps.